Ample Opportunities

Joey with a lime green caterpillar.  senk 2012.

In life, exposure can lead along different paths. Ultimately, though, it either leads to an unhealthy saturation centering on apathy or to a passionate pursuit of learning, exploring, and sharing such joy of life with others. In any educational environment, exposures to themes, events, and activities need to be cognitively, emotionally, physically, and socially appropriate, as well as interwoven with the interests, strengths, and weaknesses of a child. When compassion and passion collide, learning becomes positively formative for a child...

And when it does not? If we are honest with ourselves, we all know what happens to the desensitized child. Just conduct an Internet search on public school shootings or violence in video games and cartoons to assess the ways in which humanity inappropriately manipulates a child's innocence. When our children are raised with excessive exposure to violence in any form - via media, commandeering conversation, entertainment, etc - we are subliminally approving of that behavior and promoting it. Do we really want to promote violence in a broken world?

Life has myriad beauties, too. Learning about other cultures (especially new food recipes), exploring nature's intricate delicacies, maintaining a positive familial environment deeply rooted in a tradition of faith, acquiring life skills that are equalized with intellectual development (such as balancing academic, technical, trade, and other avenues of learning), etc. A life well-lived is beautiful. That is what we should be promoting for our children.

I am not promoting naivety. We define our world by opposites, whether right or wrong. But, cultivating an honest understanding of humanity's sinful self, as well as providing examples of people that have fought for a positive change in the injustices that inadvertently bubble up in life, are key accompaniments to such exposure. Even more important is waiting to expose the child when s/he is ready for such exposure. It varies from child to child, which is why homeschooling can promote the most positive environment for a child's education. The public school system in America does not allow for anyone else to follow the education of the child more than the parent. As parents, we have obligations to do our part for our children. So, if you participate in a violent video game with your child and do not implement means in which the child knows killing for killing's sake is not appropriate, your child will become another spectator at a gladiatorial event - or even a participant in the ring. Do we really want a generation demoralized to violence?

Joey in Central Park, NYC.  senk 2012.

In all, each of us assumes too much. Parents assume children learn right from wrong in the school system; while, educators assume children learn right from wrong at home; and even media assumes it's someone else's responsibility. So, take a moment and assess the exposures your child has in life. Consider how many opportunities there are in your household for encouraging healthy dialogue, promoting compassion, and developing a love of life-long learning.

Promote exposures to life adventures that integrate compassion and passion for learning. Let your child explore the beauties of life, develop positive habits, and participate in acts of caring that will help them contribute to compassionate solutions, rather than enhance the problem. This will be different based on the opportunities where you live. But, look for them and get your child involved in ample life opportunities. Often, your child will lead the way in participating in compassionate activities - don't be afraid to embrace life (even the unfamiliar) and let your light shine, too.